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HAVING FUN

Good Afternoon Harvesters,

"Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil." - Ecclesiastes 9:9 NLT or how about "Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love..." - Ecc. 9:9 NIV

I shared Sunday that in order to prepare, have and keep a good marriage in this life, we must have fun.  Now there are three types of fun we can see in the Song of Solomon.  The wisest man ever to live understood that having fun in marriage and our relationships is so important to building, getting and keeping them alive.

For those that are not married yet, two of the three are acceptable and encouraged in your relationship and the third set aside for when you are married.  The first is Face-to-Face fun.  Spending time talking, not just texting, but face-to-face conversation. Talking and getting to know each other is the first and so important in maintaining your relationship.  Too many couples do not spend meaningful conversation with each other after they are married.  They lose date night and what they used to do when they first met.  Keeping face-to-face conversation is so important and builds intimacy and truly hearing the other person, their dreams, and hopes.

The second is Side-to-Side fun. Spending time doing shared hobbies and activities together. It encourages and builds up each other.  It shows that you care about the things they care about that you enjoy doing something with them, that may not be the most enjoyable for you, but because you are with the one you love helps them to know you care and builds up intimacy.

The third way and reserved for marriage is Belly Button-to-Belly Button fun. Yes, here it is SEX.  Divorce with couples today stems from 3 major causes, communication, money and sex (or lack of).  Physical intimacy has been designed by God not just for procreation but for the enjoyment of both partners. I said Sunday that sex in marriage is just as much spiritual as it is physical.  Because God designed it and placed in the confines of marriage, it is meant to strengthen the bonds of love and a tangible way to show how much we are committed to each other.

Let me say that without the other two forms of fun and the other topics we have covered in the previous messages, it makes this form of fun, more difficult to have happen.  When we are not seeking after God together and fighting fair.  When we are not having great communication and other forms of fun then we will not feel like connecting in physical intimacy.

Again, I pray that you will go back and examine your relationship.  Where have you failed through the areas we have talked about and ask God to help you.  Seek forgiveness from Him and your spouse, so that your relationship can be renewed, restored and last for a lifetime.

Reminders:

  • You can be here in PERSON or watch our Sunday Service via live stream on our Facebook page click HERE.  Our Youtube page click HERE or our Web page click HERE.
  • Combined Men and Women's Bible Study on the Gospel of John Wednesday Night at 6:30 pm in the Sanctuary or join us by Zoom. Click HERE to join by Zoom.
  • It is never too late to join a Rooted (LifeGroup) get signed up and start building community with each other.
  • 40 Day Lenten Reading Plan are available in person in the foyer or click HERE to print your own.

Sunday we will be looking at how to 'Never Give Up' in our relationships   See you Sunday!

Pastor Tim
Lead Pastor
Harvest Community Church of the Nazarene